Closed doors behind us

There is a statement that goes “It only matters who you are when you are alone and behind closed doors.” I not only disagree but I firmly believe in the complete opposite of the statement. If you live life to the fullest only when you are alone would it matter that you ever lived at all?
From the moment of birth every human being depends on its parents not only for food and shelter but on every thing that newborn will grow to accomplish. We are only born with a rooting and grasping reflex, everything aside from those two basic feats are founded on our surroundings. Our Accents, mannerisms, values and how we interact with others are dependant on others around us. We were not meant to live alone.
I find that in loneliness we focus on ourselves (there is simply nothing else to focus all of our human capacity on when we are alone). In doing so we don’t worry so much about what we are content with but rather what can make us ‘better’. Without others we can create an emptiness that can only be filled with companionship. This abysmal gap mutates, a thirst to be filled that cannot be quenched by the finite ‘things’ we try to fill it with. The only problem is the understanding what loneliness truly means.
You can be alone but still surrounded, as paradoxical as that sounds. A sociable, friendly, and outgoing person can be tough-shelled to expressing their thoughts, feelings and questions about deeper meanings in life. All of the good company in the world would mean nothing if you are deserted. The fine line between popularity and bare is unknown to most.
Do others know your imperfection? Are you allowing other to help you in your issues without worry about who you will be seen as? Most simulate and conjure up themselves as a protagonist who has dealt with every climax the world has had to offer…but concealed is a child who remains unresolved and belittled by their hindrance. Even the minutest of actions have effects of great magnitude in other’s lives; so rather than worrying about appearances, worry about the obstacle you face and how to aid others who confronting the exact same setback. Even if being open transforms you into a social pariah, accept that we do not know tomorrow despite any predictions and (more importantly) there are more people to meet. It’s not the end of the world.
Most of us make our world small, its inhabitants only encompassing the people we know and have acquainted ourselves with, and that is when we lose this fight called life.
How are you supposed to grow if you pretend to be perfect? To be our best we need to accept our gaps and neediness, the finiteness of our lives. Not only is it terrifying but we are helpless to it. 100% of us die no matter how we acted, worried, stressed, behaved or no matter how good health care gets. All of the riches of kings end up in wills. The only thing to strive for is to leave a legacy, to change someone’s life and have this innovation pass through them.
I cannot dictate how you chose to be remembered but know this, be kind to others. You can change everyone who has ever known you by being selfish. You change everyone you know and everyone they know with love, love is impressionable, strived for and contagious. The real fight in life should never be a struggle to keep the person you are behind closed doors. That battle to keep your impure wants will never end. The real conflict is between our laziness and who we are destined to be in other’s lives. Keep the closed doors behind your potential.